Mom Talk

Tue. 10/27/09 05:01 PM

Moms should stop judging, start supporting each other

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I still feel like I'm being judged for choices I made during my pregnancy, and my daughter is 4! I was what society would call a "bad" mom - I work full-time and I didn't breastfeed AT ALL. I can deal with the people who think I'm a bad mom for sending my daughter to daycare, because I feel by being the bread-winner of the family (I'm an engineer, and my husband is a journalist), I'm setting a good example for my daughter that she can do/be anything she wants. What I can't deal with is the people who always look down on me for not breastfeeding, so I find the complaints of nursing moms to be hysterical. Sure, you may get a few dirty looks, but do people really come up to you and tell you that your method for feeding your kid is unnatural? I didn't think so. The other hot button topic I find among mom's is the number of kids they choose to have. My daughter is going to be an only child (add this to my list of sins), and I've had numerous people tell me that I'm depriving her of family bonds. I'd be depriving her more if I had more kids because I wouldn't have the time, energy, and let's face it, finances to provide for her the way I do now. As long as you can support all of the kids you have, I don't care how many you have.

Hannah's Mom, St. Louis, MO

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