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Moms should stop judging, start supporting each other
I still feel like I'm being judged for choices I made during my pregnancy, and my daughter is 4! I was what society would call a "bad" mom - I work full-time and I didn't breastfeed AT ALL. I can deal with the people who think I'm a bad mom for sending my daughter to daycare, because I feel by being the bread-winner of the family (I'm an engineer, and my husband is a journalist), I'm setting a good example for my daughter that she can do/be anything she wants. What I can't deal with is the people who always look down on me for not breastfeeding, so I find the complaints of nursing moms to be hysterical. Sure, you may get a few dirty looks, but do people really come up to you and tell you that your method for feeding your kid is unnatural? I didn't think so. The other hot button topic I find among mom's is the number of kids they choose to have. My daughter is going to be an only child (add this to my list of sins), and I've had numerous people tell me that I'm depriving her of family bonds. I'd be depriving her more if I had more kids because I wouldn't have the time, energy, and let's face it, finances to provide for her the way I do now. As long as you can support all of the kids you have, I don't care how many you have.
Moms should stop judging, start supporting each other
I agree. Being a mom was supposed to be the reason why we all started connecting on the internet - not to judge parenting styles. We are all in this together.
Agree with Rachel
Rachel, I agree with you. Everyone has a different parenting style, it has to be what fits best with the parents, children and environment.
I have one daughter and I breastfed her for 11 months, I didn't want to stop but my milk stopped. I was proud I could manage that long.
She is 7 and on occasion still sleeps with us. She is a well developed and liked girl. She is active and I grow more proud of her every day.
I don't judge how people parent, sometimes I question who is in control (the parent or the child), but that is for that parent to handle. I only need to worry about my daughter and what is best for her and us as a family.
Those who choose to argue need to find something a little more productive to do with their time, supporting others would be a great start.
Fighting Moms
I disagree that women are only this way over the internet. I think women are worse when it's face to face. My daughter stopped breast feeding just before she turned 2. When she was still nursing I would get disgusted looks from people when they'd find out. Not just from people I didn't know but from friends and family also. I never let it bother me though, I knew it was right for our family.
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