Every cancer warrior needs a cancer sponsor
I remember when I was first diagnosed with breast cancer, with all the doctors telling me what I need to know and all of the information coming so quickly. Decisions needed to be made so quickly and here I was having never known anyone my age who had breast cancer. That is where this blog brought around my first true blessing, Shannon Watson.
I have mentioned Shannon on multiple occasions, but here is a quick synopsis: Shannon was diagnosed with breast cancer at age 25. She underwent a lumpectomy, chemo and radiation. Two years later, she was diagnosed again. For the past two years, she has undergone more chemo, a clinical trial drug and is doing hormone therapy. On top of all that, she has become a health guru, incorporating nutrition and other alternative cancer prevention measures. Right now, her once aggressive, out of control growing cancer has become a slow growing stable nuisance.
I tell you all this because Shannon is what I term my "cancer sponsor." Just as alcoholics and addicts have sponsors to guide them through a life of sobriety, I believe cancer survivors need sponsors to guide them through the ins and outs of the physical and emotional aspects of cancer. Everyone needs a friend to tell them that what they are feeling and going through is normal. A sponsor also has the knowledge and know-how of what is to come and expect.
A sponsor should be someone you can relate to. I had many women a little older then me give me some great advice and help as I went through my cancer treatment, but not many could understand what I was going through as a 27-year-old newlywed battling cancer. Shannon could.
I was lucky that Shannon's dad saw my blog one day and connected me with her by e-mail. While I do not see Shannon as much as I did when I was going through treatment, I know she is my sponsor and if I need her, she would be there. I just hope I can pay it forward one day to someone else.
Sponsors are a great source and women seem readily available to help fellow survivors. So don't feel intimidated by reaching out and finding a new friend. A sponsor is just a friend who is there to keep you sane, positive and healthy.
By the way, a great place to find a cancer friend is at support groups. Shannon started a breast cancer support group for women under the age of 40 at Gilda's House in Royal Oak. It meets every other Tuesday from 6:30-8 p.m. I'll be there tonight, but showing up pretty late. But if you are in the Royal Oak area and want to meet some cool cancer chicks, head over. It is not your normal support group. I promise.
