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My tween hates to listen to me eat

In the last year, my daughter literally cannot stand to listen to me eat. The crunchier it is sends her flying out of the room. She's fine with other family members. What's going on?

Behavior

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What would you have my husband do when his two daughters refused to come out of the house when he goes to pick them up for visitation? He can not count on their mother or the FOC for any help. He filled complains with Washtenaw County Friend of the Court but they refused to do anything about it. The girls are 11 and 12 and this has been going on for 3 years.

outta control kids

ive have a 8,9,12, and 16 yr old. i try having them get along but most times it hard. the boy arue with the girls and like wise. we cant have desent meel wit out the 8 yr old throw in fod at the 9. i need hep? wat do ido?

Extremely disobedient behavior

Dr. Klein-

Recently, my 7 yr old daughter began having extreme temper tantrums when she doesn't get what she wants, to the point of not even being able to calm her down and speak to her in a rational manner. She has always been head-strong but it is over the top now. With that, she all of a sudden started not wanting to go to her room alone, get dressed, take showers or anything else where she is alone. This has started to affect her schooling as she refuses to get ready for school in the morning without assistance, but I have two smaller children to get ready as well so I can't attend to her every moment. We have tried talking to her, punishments, rewards, everything and nothing has worked. We are at our wits end. Her teacher said she is an excellent student and good in school and has no behavior problems there. What could be causing this behavior? Do you think we should seek professional help for her? Any advice you could provide is appreciated. Thanks!

13 year old grandson with autism

I have a 9 year old with autism. A lot of his behavior is learned - and can therefore be unlearned. My child, like all children, hates social isolation. Even when he is clearly not able to handle a social setting of more than just 4 people, he still wants to be a part of the group just like any child.

The outburst might be a reaction to being overwhelmed by the noise - it gets people to shut up for a second or so. Or it might not. I suggest sending him to his room and judging his reaction. Does he welcome the isolation or does he resist/resent it? If he is overwhelmed, he should welcome the reprieve. In that case, someone should keep him company and reassure him that it's not punishment.

If not, then ignoring the unwarranted outburst and/or sending him to his room as punishment may eventually curb the behavior. I think I would give him a warning first. Simple comments or questions directed at him during the conversation might give him the feeling of social inclusion without being unduly disruptive. An occasional "do you understand that?" might be enough. You might even work it to your advantage - getting him to pay close attention to what people around him are saying. I'm sure other adults will understand and be tolerant. After all, 13 is about the time when some normal kids start wanting to be treated more like adults (within limits, of course).

IMO, autism does not affect the whole brain - just select parts of it. So we should expect only certain aspects of their behavior be affected. The real trick, of course, is figuring out which is which.

violent 6 yrs old

Sugar is the biggest stick in the arsenal. Misbehaving children are like performers, take away the audience and the shows over. When my kids were that age I just kept walking when they did the gimme gimme gimme routine. It worked pretty well. Pretend like you're trying to ditch em, that also keeps em close. Don't forget to be disappointed when they catch up.

Domestic Violence

My ex-husband recently assaulted me. My 3-year old was present but I don't think he saw the physical violence but I know he heard all the yelling. The police were called and my son did see them and all their vehicles but he did not see them take his dad away.

What are some things I can do to help my son deal with this? Also, now he will not see his father for several weeks because of a court order. I have no idea how to explain why his dad is not going to be around for a while.

child abuse

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violent 6 yrs old

GET HIM OFF SUGAR >>CHANGE HIS FOOD>>ORGANIC>>FRESH FRUITS AND VEGETABLES>>NO POP ETC. BACK to WHOLE MILK ..sunshine. walking ..

13 year old grandson with autism

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Ground them to each other

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I have two children (adults now). A son and a daughter. They were born 6 years apart, my son came first. Once my daughter was old enough to bicker and fight with my son and vice versa, I didn't ground them (it was more of a punishment for me than them). What I would do is make them sit on the couch together, apologize to each other and make them hold hands for a pre-determined amount of time. It almost always worked as they would eventually start laughing cause the felt silly. I didn't do this every time cause I was afraid it would lose its effectiveness, but when I did use it, it worked.

13 year old grandson with autism

I failed to mention that he takes risperdol and an antidepressent, I think fluoxetine?

13 year old grandson with autism

I have a 13 year old grandson diagnosed many years ago with "high functioning autism". Apparently, some autistics have the "visual" form where they do not look at people, but my daughter in law says his is of the "audio" variety, where loud sounds set him off. To talk with him you might not even know he has autism, however, when he is not the center of attention, he interrupts the conversation with some sort of outburst, such as he will hollar "OUCH" to get everyone's attention. He also uses his autism to excuse his obnoxious behavior. First, I have never heard of this "audio" variety, is there really such a thing? and how do I manage his outbursts and obnoxious behavor?

ADHD Medication Study

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I was just intoduced to your blog by my mom who sent me your 8/10/09 post.

Thank you for such a sensible answer.

Medication is not going to be the answer for everyone-this is true-but I say to everyone who questions me"don't judge my decisions until you have spent 24 hours parenting my son.

Would you deprive a child insulin or chemo or any other quality of life medication? My son has wept in my arms many times because he would like his brain to be like everyone else's.

He is a much happier person because he is happier with himself and what he has been able to achieve since we started using medication(in addition to seeing a therapist through a free program at Children's and regular visits with his prescribing Psychologist)

Most children are articulate enough to understand how different they feel and if that helps with social interations and school work.I hope more people can start looking at the world through their children's eyes (and Heads) before they rule out something that could help.

Thank you

I'll keep reading

Meli Zikakis

Frustrated 11 1/2 yr. old son

Hi,

I have an 11 1/2 yr. old son who is getting frustrated easily in sports & in life. He is also prone to crying. He does not want to do anything that requires work. ( iam cutting into his time when he has to do anything) He also seems to expect to be the best at everything. When it does not happen easily or quickly he slams things down & starts tearing up. I have tried talking to him, coaching him, letting him stand on his own, etc. Is this a phase? How do I work with him?

Thanks,

Martha

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